There should be, but there hasnt been. A little over a month ago I had an abnormal pap smear. For you gentleman a pap smear is as gross as it sounds. It happens at the gynecologist, it involves long swabs and assurances from the doctor that you will “just feel a pinch.” As women we should be getting this done about twice a year, and no matter what your age, spread eagle in a cold room with metal instruments never feels routine. Nor is the part of the exam to check your ovaries. I’ll spare you details, but it involves equal amounts of fingers and awkward silences.
Having an abnormal pap is pretty common and Ive had my fair share over the years. Typically its followed with another lab test to confirm or deny suspicious activity. Except this time it was different. My doctor let me know that my cells were considered “high grade,” meaning a biopsy would be needed to determine whether cervical cancer was present. Another trip to the doctor for more pinching, followed by pressure and a new scraping sound previously unknown to me.
For someone who can get into a bar fight with a man, I’m actually quite a pussy, pun definitely not intended. I have passed out on airplanes multiple times from motion sickness, been woozy at the very thought of cutting my finger, and recently had to sit down because I was thinking too much about crime scenes (Thanks to watching too much “Breaking Bad“) and felt wobbly. So really when it comes to handling digging around in my lady parts in a calm manner, I am totally unqualified.
In the week following my biopsy strange things were happening, further escalating my stress levels. During a shower and my routine internal cleaning (Yes, we get up there), I felt something…foreign. Almost like wet paper, and what I pulled out looked vaguely like that, except transparent, and the color of iodine. If this is the part where you feel woozy, skip ahead. What followed in the next couple days was a mass exodus of cervical “skin,” apparently flaking off from my insides from where the doctor cut her sample. That scraping sound was no longer a mystery, and I handled my shedding with as much tact as I had handled that. Pathetic moaning, in unison with my standard swaying side to side bit. Though somehow the real me prevailed, and I was disgusting enough to take a picture of a particularly large piece. Sick in the head me always wins out over sensible me. If youre wondering why Im not posting the picture its hardly to spare your stomach. Its because I lost my phone.
I had to wait two weeks for biopsy results, and in typical me fashion, rescheduled once because I was getting laid that day by my gorgeous 22 year old, and wanted to stick it to myself one more time before the possible bad news. The doctors office I go to is, lets say, culturally diverse. Though I guess thats a bit of a stretch since Im usually the only white girl in there, hardly making it diverse. Its got the usual amount of crying babies, ignoring receptionists and cheap botox flyers you would expect at a discount clinic. This place freaks me out, but like some sort of mountain goat who follows the same path, I keep ending up at this shit hole.
I slept like shit for two weeks waiting on these results, with dreams of people from my past, and my own mortality. I’m not one to go to the Doctor, and I usually choose to ignore or self medicate any health issues. The potential of cancer was..isolating. I was shocked at my reluctance to share what I was going through with anyone. As a leo its my natural inclination to tell the whole world my thoughts, opinions and ideas, so to keep something so big a secret was quite honestly shocking to me. How many movies or tv episodes have you seen with families pulling together, rallying around their loved ones and their cancer struggle? Vowing to stick together, get through it, make the best of it! I cant imagine. I wanted to crawl in a hole, keep my dirty little secret to myself.
At work my friend and I went to the bathroom together, and upon her questioning how my week was, I blurted out “I might have cancer” before ducking into a bathroom stall. My behavior is absurd at times like these, with no concept of social protocol. But Ive never had to tell someone a thing like this, and I see now my instinct is to throw a pile of turd on the floor, and hit the ground running. I guess my bathroom stall was my open field. Of course she thought I was joking, and after realizing I wasn’t freaked out more than I did. Its strange how my fear has come out, and I wonder if people who are actually dieing do the same thing. Pull away from friends and loved ones. Maybe to spare them the worry? Maybe to avoid the pity party? Cancer always seemed like a great way to get attention, to be validated with everyones love and attention. Now I see its a burden, just the very thought of it.
My results came back as pre-cancerous, meaning I could have cancer tomorrow, or never. Its quite a large vague window, one that leaves little room for comfort. I’m now scheduled for a LEEP procedure, which is where they do more scraping, accompanied by some sort of electric current. Definitely not what I pictured for the comfort of my uterus. Even with that frankenstein like procedure, its the anesthesia that worries me the most, the disconnect of soul from body, much different than sleep. I’ve had about 6 surgeries in my life, and never once woken up in a timely and normal fashion. Its usually about 2 hours after Ive been “released” that I even remember what happened, and apparently during that time Ive either been violently puking, making crazy talk, or almost dieing. A particularly fun time was when I had my wisdom teeth pulled out and they over medicated me. My bf came into the room to gather me afterwards and tells me I was completely blue and throwing up on myself. The shit dentist was telling him he had to get me out of there and that I was fine. Meanwhile my whole arm turned black because they had missed my vein the first time with the anesthesia and pumped it directly into my muscle. Suffice to say, going under scares me. I’m scared of the sickness, and I fear for my poor friend that has to collect me under those circumstances.
My surgery is next week and though Im sleeping marginally better, Im not comfortable with any of it. I told the guy I was dating about it, and he promptly stopped seeing me the week I got my results. The irony is his father died of cancer, but perhaps there’s no irony at all. All that did was validate my reasons for not telling anyone. Most people dont want the burden, even if it is just an idea, a possibility, or something that happens to someone else.
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